Last week in I Peter we continued exploring the theme of Christian submission by considering the relationship between employers and employees. This week we’re continuing our exploration of the same theme by looking at the relationship between husbands and wives.
The difference in role between husbands and wives is troublesome to many in our day. Many women read Peter’s instruction on submission and feel the Scripture is demeaning to women (I Peter 3:1; Eph.5:22).
- How would you explain to someone concerned about the Scripture’s teaching on submission that in God’s world submission does not mean inferiority? Talk this one out with your spouse and family, and have a Bible close at hand. If the teaching of Scripture on this subject troubles you, seek further help from a pastor or elder.
- Men, are you relating to women or your wife specifically in a chauvinistic way? Do not trust your own judgment on this one. If you’re married, ask your wife for an honest evaluation, and then take every word she says to heart.
Women, there are a lot of pressure on you to be physically beautiful. Many of the anxieties, stresses, and disorders that women face come from feeling physically inferior. Peter teaches us that God is not interested in external adornment but “the hidden person of the heart” (I Peter 3:3-4).
- Do you spend more time working on your physical appearance and adornment then you do on the imperishable beauty of the heart? Be honest. Explore what it would mean to begin repenting of this, and finding freedom in the beauty God desires for you.
- If you’re struggling with an eating disorder or depression because of the way you look physically, take time right now to contact a close female friend (or your husband if you’re married) to confide in her (or husband) and seek help. God wants to see this broken in your life
Men, many of us are guilty of putting pressure on women generally and our wives/girlfriends specifically about their appearance.
- Are you quick to judge a woman by her external adornment?
- Husbands, are you loving your wives well by taking greater delight in their spiritual adornment than their physical adornment? If you wife were asked that question, how would she respond?